12 years ago, today, I married my best friend.

Seems like a lifetime ago, if you ask me. We were two different people, in so many ways. We could have easily grown in different directions. But thankfully, we did not.

And if I’m being honest, we didn’t change. Not in our core. Not in our hearts. Our souls are still the same. We evolved. We are more experienced. Life has had its fun throwing us around a few times. We had different plans then, than we came to dream of, and we have different plans now.

Life didn’t break us, we reinvented ourselves and luckily, through it all, never drifted away… we became closer. He’s still my best friend and being with him every hour of every day, through quarantine isn’t a chore… it’s a blessing.

I know this isn’t the kind of post you came here to see. But I also know that often it can feel lonely out there. Just the other day a friend was commenting on how hard the dating scene is, right now. So I just wanted to let you know that there’s hope, because:

1- I had my fair share of bad relationships;

2- I had it so bad that, at first, I didn’t recognized a good thing when it hit me in the face;

3- our life is no fairytale. We’ve had so much disappointment in our early years of marriage. I was sick a lot, we had to rethink the blueprint we had mentally drawn for our life… we could have easily resent one another because marriage isn’t just love. Love is just the beginning. It takes commitment, loyalty, compromise, it takes respect and friendship. Marriage is complex and wonderful… if you’re willing to really do it right;

4- when we met I was I finally good with myself. I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I didn’t want one. So, you see… the right person will come along when the timing is right. And it will be lasting, if you’re both at peace with who you are individually and you complement each other rather than being dependent on the one person.

I got carried away, this is way too long… the question you need to be making is not why the right person hasn’t come along yet. It’s, are you all right? Really? Are you at peace with yourself, regardless of having a partner?

I hope our love story can help you see some light at the end of the tunnel.

For my husband, my best friend, my world… I love you. Yesterday, today and tomorrow. And love you more today than 12 years ago. So here’s to the next 112 🥂

 

To you, as always, Stay Stylish… and Hopeful 💋

Raquel